tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post3501877135034844804..comments2023-10-30T03:30:41.745-07:00Comments on The Ultimate Gift: Straight People Say The Stupidest Things....Ahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16208387674143347757noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-6864731623122307282009-03-01T15:48:00.000-08:002009-03-01T15:48:00.000-08:00"Why don't you just adopt" is the stupidist thing ..."Why don't you just adopt" is the stupidist thing that fertile people say to infertile people, regardless of their sexual orientation.<BR/><BR/>But "our problem isn't lack of a penis" is the funniest response I've heard in a long time, and being straight means I probably am not going to get to use it. Good for you for giving it to her. She deserved it.Queenie. . .https://www.blogger.com/profile/00666609807461763029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-83236848728688128142009-02-26T17:33:00.000-08:002009-02-26T17:33:00.000-08:00I am so sorry you had to endure this. One of our v...I am so sorry you had to endure this. One of our very best (straight) friends, when we first wanted to get started on this, would vehemently push adoption on us. She couldn't understand why we would ever try to get pregnant when we could adopt. I eventually had to sit down with her and explain that we too have biological clocks and even want out own offspring. Imagine that! She hasn't brought it up since, but it was a sore spot for a long time with me.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you said something. The only way she'll ever learn is if you are honest with her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-52451537541261370612009-02-25T22:47:00.000-08:002009-02-25T22:47:00.000-08:00Ugh! i feel your pain. i went through the same c...Ugh! i feel your pain. i went through the same convo with my sister a week ago. Not sure if you saw my blog post from a few days ago....you should check it out. It's called something like, "Another disturbing call with my sister."<BR/>What really pisses me off about the "Why dont you just adopt?" remark, after we explain we've tried for a year with no success....is that straight people must think WE are so simple, and that gay women cannot possibly TRULY want a child of their own. that's something just straight people want, right?<BR/><BR/>My mom once told me "Gay people who want kids just really need dogs." Nice. there is nothing wrong with adoption at all, and we even consider it an option. but i get upset when straight people don't respect that we often desire to have our own children just as much as they do. it's not an easy decision to adopt for some people. it's like straight people can't comprehend that many of us will try until the cows come home, to get pregnant and experience that form of motherhood. so sorry you had to deal with that rudeness.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10365630410394672256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-58325515389057613282009-02-25T13:41:00.000-08:002009-02-25T13:41:00.000-08:00I am so far behind in my reading that I just read ...I am so far behind in my reading that I just read your last 5 posts all in a row. Life can be so very crappy sometimes can't it? It sounds to me like you have a great plan in place and are setting yourself up for success. Keep your chin up and know that we are all rooting for you two. <BR/><BR/>PS. What a dumb bit@h she is. Maybe you should have responded "I have thought about adoption but stealing your baby seems like a much easier plan." ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-44606494139090053452009-02-25T06:24:00.000-08:002009-02-25T06:24:00.000-08:00good for you saying what you felt. if she really *...good for you saying what you felt. if she really *wants* to be a friend she is going to have to actually look at her assumptions as a straight person and as someone who has not faced infertility problems. perhaps the shock of having it brought to her attention will startle her into it... or she will avoid you :(<BR/><BR/>so many people have asked me the adoption question... even though i am not opposed to adopting a child, i wish that people didn't relate like it is the SAME or a substitute that i *just didn't think of* i find it upsetting as well.<BR/><BR/>i just want to smack her...mulberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10722754636161775920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-19822794858966519432009-02-24T20:59:00.000-08:002009-02-24T20:59:00.000-08:00Ugh, how awful! I can't stand it when people don'...Ugh, how awful! I can't stand it when people don't think. Good for you for speaking up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-79566069682838482182009-02-24T19:56:00.000-08:002009-02-24T19:56:00.000-08:00ugh - good for you for telling her like it is.I am...ugh - good for you for telling her like it is.<BR/>I am sorry you had to deal with all that emotional stuff at work of all places. <BR/>And my next retort to the adoption question is going to be - "adoption? what's that?"<BR/>hugs!xoxoxotireegal68https://www.blogger.com/profile/13943003575298698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-10394863315090835222009-02-24T19:47:00.000-08:002009-02-24T19:47:00.000-08:00wow. good for you to say that - I am upset for you...wow. good for you to say that - I am upset for you! Why do straight people have to be sooo cluless? If she was that good of a friend she wouldn't have to ask how the "baby thing" was going. idiot...screw her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-32882166498253287322009-02-24T17:01:00.000-08:002009-02-24T17:01:00.000-08:00For reasons none of us really understand, the "hav...For reasons none of us really understand, the "have you thought about adoption" question is probably the MOST asked stupid question regarding lesbians ttc. I don't know why but I've heard it, we all have heard it, and not always be the dumb ones. I always want to answer sarcastically, like: "Gee! Adoption! I NEVER thought of that!?!"tbeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06845011825238450567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-82741760444053276022009-02-24T16:59:00.000-08:002009-02-24T16:59:00.000-08:00Ugh. How awful! I am so impressed that you stood u...Ugh. How awful! I am so impressed that you stood up for yourself. I cannot fathom how some people feel perfectly comfortable giving unasked for and un-educated advice.cindyhoo2https://www.blogger.com/profile/00270674009271182588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7447693691121682289.post-23664438053080058792009-02-24T09:16:00.000-08:002009-02-24T09:16:00.000-08:00Wow. Straight people often do say the stupidest a...Wow. Straight people often do say the stupidest and often insensitive things. I find often it's very smug. Sorry she was such an ass. Hope the rest of your day goes better.Shazam!https://www.blogger.com/profile/08912212000096749414noreply@blogger.com