K and I finally talked a little bit. We haven't had the opportunity to discuss the situation since I told her about the cyst and endometriosis being back Monday morning. We talked over the phone, which wasn't ideal but if we didn't say something about what was going on after 2 days I think we would both lose our minds.
We've decided to prepare and explore 2 different options. First we're going to make her an appointment to get checked out by our RE. We just want to know if switching to her is an option. At the same time we're going to take the next few months and prepare for IVF for me. The RE wants me to get my body ready by taking a drug for a few months that would take away the endometriosis. And I need to drop a few pounds. I'm not over the weight limit for IVF, but with the recent weight gain I've had I don't want to start this process feeling like I'm out of shape and not healthy enough for IVF. I need to know that I've done everything I can to help it be successful.
We also need to see if she'll get called back to work the next few months as well as see how we're going to handle the very aggressive payoff plan that we've put together.
We both feel like we could cry at the drop of a hat these days and we feel very defeated, but we're not ready to give up. Maybe in the end we'll be going the adoption route. Either will be ok. It's just time to expand our family. We're just going to slow down a bit because we've hit some bumps and I just need to slow down the bumps. Those bumps have already cost us over $16,000. When I add to that I want to do it knowing more. I feel like the decisions we've made that got us to that $16,000 was because we were new to this. Because we didn't know any better. Because I thought I could fix my infertility issues and have IUI as an option. Maybe IUI could still be an option, but IVF will by pass all my infertility problems and give us a better shot.
So, my journey is officially on hold. My blog will hopefully be letting everyone know how much debt we're paying off to make this process financially easier. I'll be letting everyone know how much weight I'm losing, but even better how much healthier and stronger I'll be getting. I'll be letting everyone know about K's appointment(s) and my appointment(s) with the RE and what our options are and what direction we decide to go. I hope you all hang in there with me and I'll be hanging in there with all of you. Even though I'll be extremely jealous at your success my happiness for you will eventually over ride that jealousy. Promise.
So, here's to the next step....
8 years ago
you sound much better. of course we'll hang in there with you and keep reading and cheer you along while you're on hold. i totally understand the frustrating and the feeling of being burned because you made expensive choices when you were new to all of this. i hope you don't let it eat you up inside. debt is so challenging. i get it. big hugs. and keep us posted!
ReplyDeletesounds like you and K are being very rational and approaching this roadblock the best way possible. i'll be eager to hear how her appointment goes and your ivf beginnings. you will get to the promised baby-land, one step at a time! :)
ReplyDeleteYou ladies did quite a lot of work over the phone. I think that your plan is pragmatic and what sounds best for your complex situation. I look forward to your updates and will cheer you along the journey.
ReplyDeleteI am toasting your new plan and next steps. It all sounds great! I wish you nothing but success and happiness.
ReplyDeleteI think your plan of moving ahead with both of you sounds very smart. You plan to get finances in order and get more fit is also smart. A friend of mine wanted to do some natural childbirth techniques and her OBGYN told her that she would not be strong enough as she was not very fit when she got pregnant... so your get fit plan can help on the getting pregnant end and the childbirth end as well.
ReplyDeleteVery level headed...
ReplyDeleteSounds like it is a great plan- I too, look forward to all of your updates!
Best wishes!
Casey
We will all be here for you guys. It sounds like you two are a strong couple and can get through this. I wish all the best during this waiting period.
ReplyDeleteIndeed, here is to the next step! I look forward to hearing how things are going over the next little while. Good for you guys!
ReplyDeleteHere from L&F. Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you! (((HUGS)))
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sounds like a great plan - Jo and I have do the same thing (switching back and forth) when it gets too stressful for one of us. sparkpeople.com is a great website for weight loss support in case your interested :o) I have lost 35 lbs. with their help! Good luck on this next part of your journey together!
ReplyDeleteHere from Lost and Found to wish you the best of luck with whatever you end up doing next.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a good plan, it still sucks that you have to come up with such a plan but I think it's the most reasonable one that you've got.
ReplyDeleteI am hoping this comment works. I try to comment all the time and always struggle getting them accepted on your blog.
ReplyDeleteI like your two options. I wish this was covered under health insurance. The financial costs add so much stress.
Hang in there. I'll stick with ya.
I think you've made the right decision. I'm on try #8 after 18 months and emotionally, I couldn't have handled it otherwise. At first we did this because I found the process too tiring but after my 6th try in July 2008 I thought I was losing my mind. I was in a really bad place and we were also hemorrhaging money. Taking a break to get things right is sometimes the best thing you can do!
ReplyDeleteSwitching to K is also such a good option. I hope it works out for you!
Having such a great plan will be the key to staying sane. I look forward to your journey as you hop back on the wagon sometime soon. Good luck on the weight loss.
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